From The Storyteller
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Wedding
After years of “doing weddings” as a pastor, I’ve learned that there is one “Rule” and three responses a man needs to master, in order to help bring about a successful wedding. The context is simple. The love birds have declared they want a simple wedding, and they begin to start the guest list. Naturally this is where the “Rule” first comes into play. It is, “Never get between your bride and her mother/wedding planner when decisions about the wedding are being made”. If you ignore this “Rule” and pick a side, you will lose. The best man and your parents will probably make it to the guest list, but beyond that suggestions only will be accepted. As the event details begin to unfold under the “Rule”, the three responses rise to the level of very important. The first response is always to listen carefully to your bride, and if an actual decision is “not” required, an affirmative nod, a soft “uh hu”, or a verbale “yes dear” will keep things moving in the right direction - without violating the “Rule”. If the bride seems to want an answer, (e.g. while trying on a possible wedding dress) she asks, “Does this make me look fat?” the response is never “yes dear”. At that point the best possible response is “How much does it cost?” Say this knowing that a dress decision will be made without your input. Again, you have not violated the “Rule”. As more wedding day plans begin to unfold the “yes dear” response may seem appropriate, but with careful listening, a wise choice might lead you to response number three, “Where do I stand?” If you are comfortable with the “Rule”, and my suggested responses, you are well on your way to a great marriage. Moral: Good advice is always helpful. |