From The Storyteller
Hello All: Enjoy, Doug
Just when I think I’ve got a handle on something I re-think my stuff and change my direction. Example: “Generous” is a word that I always thought of as positive way of complimenting a person for giving money, complements, time, etc. That was until it dawned on me that every time I call a person’s actions generous, I’m making a judgment call of another based on my standards, which most likely aren’t the standards of the person I’m judging.
Bam! This is where the little pride voice in my head jumps in and tells me, “When you think you’re being generous, it’s really you’re being prideful and that is a bad thing”. Now I’m confronted with the suggestion that somehow feeling good about being generous is simply a mental trick to make myself feel good. Note to reader: I consider this type of thinking “BS” which far too often stops folks from doing anything at all.
Important Rule: Don’t stop doing good simply because what you’re doing it’s not perfect.
Which naturally brings me to the standard I apply to myself when I desire to be generous. Here the word “reasonable” becomes important, because for me, I’m working at being generous when my conduct goes beyond what I consider to be reasonable. Yes, I acknowledge this is a vague answer, so hopefully these four stories will give you a better picture of how it gets applies and how being generous can look really different.
Morale: Don't let "being perfect be an obstacle". Do good, be generous, and blow off the guilt trip.