From The Storyteller
Aug. 26, 2019, Dance
“Come on baby, let’s do the Twist” the Twist’s first words by Chubby Checker (1960): I can name it and claim it because I have done the Twist. I’ve also Two Stepped, Waltzed, done the Swim, and authentic 1960’s Rock and Roll. To amazement of my beautiful bride I actually received college PE credit for a formal ballroom dance class. These dances all had one thing in common - recognized approved steps. Note: Two Stepping and the Twist are not compatible.
Which brings me to the idea of approved recognized steps in life. Example: At times a simple handshake will close a deal, while at other times (like buying a house) signatures on 80 pages are needed. Wedding proposals have recognized steps, which can vary culture to culture, as can the weddings that follow. Approved steps are everywhere from the high school football coin toss, to the seventh inning stretch at a Cub’s baseball game.
By trial and error, I’ve discovered knowing the approved steps for each new situation, can be important. Consequently, I’ve developed a method for discovering those steps quickly, which has made my entire life easier: It’s called “asking for help”. Please understand this did not come easily. I truly was the driver who never would asked for directions, and the shopper who would never ask a clerk where something might be found.
I was cured in a Target.After hunting for over 30 minutes trying to find something, Elaine did the unthinkable. She asked a person wearing a Target vest for help, and 30 seconds later it was in hand. The actually wording of my method, “Excuse me, could you please help me?” Whether it’s shopping or navigating airport security, asking for help can make life easier.
Moral: Needing help and asking for it are two different things.